Tips on Making Online Dating Safe
Friday, November 27th, 2009
Alan Lim asked:
What are the Tips on Online dating
Use only FREE email accounts with sites such as Yahoo, Gmail, Bigfoot and Hotmail. In this way you make easy correspondence while keeping your local email secure.
Do not create a profile name that gives a clue as to where you’re from and who you are. Choose a simple nickname but far from your true identity, to avoid getting your personal information accessed by unwanted individuals. Also, when filling up your profile, do not reveal too much personal data.
Conversation when online dating:
• Ensure secrecy. Never provide anyone with your personal information such as address, full name, phone number and email address. Take it as a warning if anybody who asks you these early in the conversation. Stop communicating immediately when you feel uncomfortable as you are the one in control here
• Remain anonymous. Don’t give personal information readily when dating online. During online dating, ask lots of questions. Ask him/her about his/her hobbies, education, career and interests. Take note of all of these, as the person you are talking to needs to be consistent. If they are not consistent then chances are they are not being truthful with you and not worth your time.
• Be honest. Likewise in your end, be honest enough, but also remember not to give too much information as far as your work and home address is concerned. Just be truthful with your conversations. Convey your intentions as clearly as possible. And if you don’t like him/her, tell him/her politely. Don’t find excuses and give him/her the impression that you are interested in meeting with him/her.
• Be safe. When both of you feel that it is time to be talking on the phone, the man should be the one to give the girl his number and the girl should be the one to call the man. The girl should never give her phone number when dating online.
• Be protected. When you are sure that you want to meet the person in face, ask him for references, such as his friends, relatives or co- workers. This is not to give them the feeling that you don’t trust them, but if they too trust you, they would understand that you are very much willing to meet with him, but you just want to be on the safe side. If he is genuine and is sincerely interested in you, he has nothing to be afraid of and should oblige your request.
The meeting:
• Inform somebody of the meeting. Make certain you tell your friend or a member of the family where exactly are you going and who you’re meeting.
• Remember to bring your cell phone along, so that you can call your friend right away during emergency.
• Use common sense and judge accordingly when online dating.
• Meet him/her in a public place such as park, museum, or anywhere as long as there are a lot of people.
Dos and Don’ts on your first date:
• Do be on time.
• Do look good and be neat.
• Do compliment.
• Do make your date comfortable.
• Do listen.
• Do talk about something you have a common interest with
• Do be an exciting date. Listen to your date and make sure to let your date feel that you are interested with all that he/she has to say.
• Do ask your date about her hobbies, career and future plans.
• Do be romantic.
• Do enjoy your moment together.
• Do laugh at her jokes.
• Do be yourself.
• Do avoid touching.
Don’ts
• Don’t be late.
• Don’t talk about your past relationship.
• Don’t pretend.
• Don’t ask too much questions.
• Don’t show disrespect to your date’s beliefs.
• Don’t forget to say thank you after the date.
So do you think you are ready for dating online? Just be cautious and practice common sense and you will find that online dating can be a fun and wonderful experience.
Kansieo.com
What are the Tips on Online dating
Use only FREE email accounts with sites such as Yahoo, Gmail, Bigfoot and Hotmail. In this way you make easy correspondence while keeping your local email secure.
Do not create a profile name that gives a clue as to where you’re from and who you are. Choose a simple nickname but far from your true identity, to avoid getting your personal information accessed by unwanted individuals. Also, when filling up your profile, do not reveal too much personal data.
Conversation when online dating:
• Ensure secrecy. Never provide anyone with your personal information such as address, full name, phone number and email address. Take it as a warning if anybody who asks you these early in the conversation. Stop communicating immediately when you feel uncomfortable as you are the one in control here
• Remain anonymous. Don’t give personal information readily when dating online. During online dating, ask lots of questions. Ask him/her about his/her hobbies, education, career and interests. Take note of all of these, as the person you are talking to needs to be consistent. If they are not consistent then chances are they are not being truthful with you and not worth your time.
• Be honest. Likewise in your end, be honest enough, but also remember not to give too much information as far as your work and home address is concerned. Just be truthful with your conversations. Convey your intentions as clearly as possible. And if you don’t like him/her, tell him/her politely. Don’t find excuses and give him/her the impression that you are interested in meeting with him/her.
• Be safe. When both of you feel that it is time to be talking on the phone, the man should be the one to give the girl his number and the girl should be the one to call the man. The girl should never give her phone number when dating online.
• Be protected. When you are sure that you want to meet the person in face, ask him for references, such as his friends, relatives or co- workers. This is not to give them the feeling that you don’t trust them, but if they too trust you, they would understand that you are very much willing to meet with him, but you just want to be on the safe side. If he is genuine and is sincerely interested in you, he has nothing to be afraid of and should oblige your request.
The meeting:
• Inform somebody of the meeting. Make certain you tell your friend or a member of the family where exactly are you going and who you’re meeting.
• Remember to bring your cell phone along, so that you can call your friend right away during emergency.
• Use common sense and judge accordingly when online dating.
• Meet him/her in a public place such as park, museum, or anywhere as long as there are a lot of people.
Dos and Don’ts on your first date:
• Do be on time.
• Do look good and be neat.
• Do compliment.
• Do make your date comfortable.
• Do listen.
• Do talk about something you have a common interest with
• Do be an exciting date. Listen to your date and make sure to let your date feel that you are interested with all that he/she has to say.
• Do ask your date about her hobbies, career and future plans.
• Do be romantic.
• Do enjoy your moment together.
• Do laugh at her jokes.
• Do be yourself.
• Do avoid touching.
Don’ts
• Don’t be late.
• Don’t talk about your past relationship.
• Don’t pretend.
• Don’t ask too much questions.
• Don’t show disrespect to your date’s beliefs.
• Don’t forget to say thank you after the date.
So do you think you are ready for dating online? Just be cautious and practice common sense and you will find that online dating can be a fun and wonderful experience.
Kansieo.com
