FRANCIS K GITHINJI asked:


Many are the times i have been in a dating dilemma since i started being in relationships. Things seem to get better or worse every day so it is hard to settle without a dilemma. Not until things remain at a stand still in dating. Do you see such a day? Every person in the dating scene has one dilemma or another. It is unavoidable to be confused about one issue or another. I had to make decisions every day until i am tired. How i wish i can get an advocate to handle all my decisions. But anyway dating would be boring without competition, variety to choose from and what to do and what to leave. We can only deal with it if we hope for any fun in dating.

How many news papers have columns for dating dilemmas? Almost all the papers i know about. Those columns are overflowing with questions from troubled souls. Most of the times the answers are with us but we are hoping we are wrong. A dilemma comes in when you want to keep your cake and eat it. This is not possible. I once read from a dating dilemma column in a news paper about a certain lady. The lady was in love with a married man. She knew it was wrong but she claimed to have been fallen head over heels in love with him. She also had two other boyfriends whom she did not love as much but were good enough to offer all that is admirable in a relationship. One was financially challenged but a good guy. The other one was financially fit but had no marks when it came to treating women. They all wanted to marry her but she had to get married to only one man. Is this a dilemma or confusion.

The replies to her dating dilemma were so funny i laughed all through my reading. I guess i spotted only one genuine advice. The others were either jokes or insults. Others confused her the more by telling her to leave all of them and look for a fresh partner. General knowledge dictates that the answer was with her only that she was blinded by love. I know she was dying to hear someone tell her that she should stick by the one she loves. Sometimes love is not enough. A married man should not even be a subject to a dating dilemma. Rational thinking dictates that she should have stuck with the good guy who treats her the way she wanted to be treated. There are always ways and means to look for money. The other one who was single but fails in treating women well should not have even been mentioned.

Her dating dilemma was simple only that dating is a field which is very sensitive. Emotions come into play affecting our level of reasoning. Don’t you think we can easily put dating dilemma at bay? Yes we can by thinking with our minds and not our hearts. Sometimes the heart is not so smart, it goes where it should not go. Always remain rational.



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Aaron The Joker asked:


I find it kind of hard to believe that some people say they have meet on an dating web site because were they live very far away, and can hardly date each other to get to know each other (well they are talking online tho)

Do you really believe you could find true love on dating web sites?

I just want to know your options

Thanks

Have A Laughing Day

P.S. You do not have to tell me if you do not want to.

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Michelle Smith-Billups asked:


Some call this Senior Dating, Black Dating or over the hill dating in Baltimore.

I call it hysterical! As the owner of two online dating websites (one for Black Singles and one for Senior Singles) AND a black dating service (I give dating events) you would think I could at least find some datable men. YOU would be wrong!

It had been almost two years since my husband’s death before I even considered “dating” again. The gentleman was really nice, could hold a conversation but was not really my type. Now mind you, my type has been all over the place so I don’t have a type per se. However, he was not “it.”

That indefinable “it” that lets you know up front just how far to take this thing. So, for me, right now I am taking everything very slowly. Being a widow does have its advantage. One of the advantages is it will buy me time. So even when I KNOW this is going absolutely no where, most men have the common sense and tact not to rush or push me. Great for me. With the slim pickings here in Baltimore, slow is the only way to go. I have been just friends with a man only to find out six months down the road that I really REALLY like this guy. So my method is to take my time, feel the gentleman out and let things unfold as they may. But fellas Please help a sister out!

While I will admit I have been a little spoiled (my husband dressed his self and me very well and was always slim), I am not yet ready to deal with massive beer bellies, nose or heaven forbid ear hairs! Nor am I willing to be seen in public with some one who has on plaids with prints (wtf) or squeaky leather shoes, let alone sandals with crusty feet. What is going ON?

OK so, Yes, I do judge all my friends on their character, ability to hold a great conversation (not the one sided conversation where he talks and I yawn), along with a good sense of humor.

A women’s erogenous zone has always been between her ears, most women don’t realize that until their innate “hotness” has worn off. AND the man of their choice now is sporting one of those beer bellies. To take me to dinner a few times does not constitute an invitation to spend the night (What? You want to stay here?) I need just a little more than that. I can assist with the dressing as needed, but please get rid of those PLAIDS AND PRINTS! A man who can talk and listen is what I am seeking. A great sense of humor and adventure are always a plus. These are truly the golden years. I can do this alone, but would rather be with YOU!

If this is you, hit me on my website. Ladies, happy hunting and good luck to you!



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Johan Krost asked:


There are many dating tips for guys but not all of them are worth it when it comes to the matter of dating and women. You see there are loads of dating tips out there on the internet and other sources yet only a few of these dating tips actually help men. There are some stunning dating tips which are guaranteed to help you achieve the desired results with females fast. Read on to discover what these dating tips are and how you can use them to achieve stunning results with women…

Dating tip 1- Never act too impressed too early- This is something you must be careful about at all times. You see what normally happens is that most guys end up acting too impressed too early due to which the girl they are with loses all the attraction towards them. The reason why this happens is simply due to the fact that when the girl discovers that you want her real bad she you become an easy catch and girls are normally after guys who are some what of a challenge.

Dating tip 2- First impression is the last impression- This is one of the most important dating tips for guys. You see if you make a lousy first impression it would be extremely hard for you to make a good impression again. Once a woman discovers that you are something she doesn’t want to have there is absolutely no way she will feel attracted towards you again. Therefore keep in mind to make a great first impression.

Dating tip 3- Act as if you are something even if you are average- Most guys feel that it’s all about the looks but the fact of the matter is that looks don’t matter that much. Now you might feel that you have read before in dating tips at other places that looks do make a difference. You see the fact of the matter is that looks have very little to do when you have a strong personality. This is one of the most under looked dating tips for guys. Girls would value you more if you are confident about yourself and carry a frame of mind. Guys concentrate more on your behavior than what you look like.

Dating tip 4- Forget the outcome just have fun- Another important dating tip for guys is to forget the outcome which means not to think about whether she will like you or not. Just be in the moment and try to have some fun. You see when you forget what she might think about you, she automatically starts to like you since she will have a great time in your company because you are enjoying yourself.



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Clarence Lee asked:


Whatever you talk about during dating activities can make or unmake you. It will be just too great if the person you are dating is mature enough and well-learned to listen and respond to all your babbles on anything that comes to your mind. Though it is unfair to conclude a character on a first meeting, you can never deny that most of the time the first impression somehow sticks to memory. The best foot that you can show off might just be the one thing you need to get that second date.

What to say and how to say it is an important skill that you might want to consider developing. You can choose on what stories, ideas, subjects, etc. to use to get a good conversation going. It is ideal to end your night best giving both of you a big happy smile.

Healthily interacting and conversing is very essential in a date. It is one method where two persons can get to know each other better. Without it, forget about going out. You are just wasting time. Leave the moments of silence and the feeling each others presence to lovers whose relationships have deepened as days passed. But for individuals who are into their first dates not saying anything may either mean they are numb or just want to become a deliberate turn-off to each other. Being awkward to one another will be the last thing in your mind especially if it is your most awaited date in your history of romance.

You may have done everything just to get the love of your life, and one wrong action may ruin everything you have invested. One of the wrong moves that you need to be very careful is the kind of topic you will try to discuss on. Even dating needs a script to make it work. Spontaneity is also scripted to some extent- much more on what to talk about. You will need words to open up a night and build it into a romantic atmosphere. Remember never bore your future partner to death or worse turn her off for the rest of your being together.

There are a lot of subjects to talk about that will help you discover how much you and your partner compliment each other. Just be yourself and see how things flow. However, there are subjects that are sure to hit the warning signs. Below are some examples of topics that should be a big no-no during a first date:

1. SWOT Analysis of your company’s business plan.

This is a subject that only managers in a company will love to hear. When you want to impress a girl impress her with listening to her plan in the future instead. That way she will feel that you seem to be interested on her in one way or another.

2. Your physical ailments

Save the discussion when you have won the heart of your date. You may not want your future partner to think that she will be a part of your life becoming a nurse or a doctor, unless you met her first in the hospital and you were the patient.

3. The girls you loved before

Telling your date about all your exes and your past crushes on the first date will truly crush her off. There are only two impressions you are making. One is you are trying to impress her with your arrogance and second you seem to not able to maintain a long-lasting relationship at all.

4. Your own personal jokes

Never assume that what might be funny to you is also funny to your date. Remember you may come from one place but each has its own experience as well. Good for you if she smiles and acknowledges your personal jokes, she is then polite. But if she does not then you are left alone enjoying yourself.

There are a lot of things that could happen to a date. Those suggested above do not get the double rule of an ultimate no. You can be flexible as long as you should know how to treat your date according to her preferences. For a fact that you asked her out the ace is still on her. First dates happen to build up on the next. Once you have known each other, then you both can identify and get familiarized with individual activities and can start talking about what matters to both of you.



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Right Back at Ya asked:


Why do sometimes, people aggressively look for shallow, eternally unsatisfying characteristics in other people while dating?

like *** and money

instead of humor, respect, humility, generosity, ambition, etc

And then when things go downhill they start complaining and cyring about the same things about the person that they were attracted to (or lack of in the other category)?

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Henry J asked:


Like why do some people who are dating although in love which is attraction, but not true love well anyway why do some have *** when no true love is involved?

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meli asked:


I am tired of reading children asking for dating advice, how to kiss, etc. and by etc I mean ETC!!! What decent parent lets their kid date at 13 anyway?
I am only 20 and I have a boyfriend so I am not some old-fart asking this!

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